"To nourish your inner child it is important to become the parental role that it seeks. This child has various traumas that were allocated throughout her life that she has woven as aspects of the shadow self. As previously discussed the shadow self is a self-preservation mechanism of the inner child. The inner child wishes to have her issues resolved. Adults are Titans to children, powerful beings with ways that they do not fully understand. No adult holds such a powerful spell upon the child other than the parental guardians, whomever that might be. During childhood it is normal to have experienced various traumas or issues. There may have been a lack of love, a lack of attention, abuse, neglect, abandonment, sexual abuse, verbal abuse, belittling or asked to take on inappropriate roles such as being placed into a parental role. All of these things effect the child as she becomes an adult more subconsciously than she wishes to acknowledge. All major issues after childhood effect the inner child at the heart.
It is up to you to give this inner child all the attention, love and commitment that is needed. When you abuse yourself or others, you are just repeating the same pattern that your shadow has you stuck in - validating itself as a real component in your life and acknowledging those Titans as powerful masters. No one can give you the love that you need if you cannot learn to love yourself. If your love within is not fulfilled you will have an unquenchable thirst for love, attention, or whatever issue that is needed. If your love within is overflowing then you will pour your love upon all that you come across without ever demanding or expecting any back, but can happily receive the gifting of love from others.
It is recommended that you allow yourself what you feel was denied to you. Tune into your inner nurturer. Set aside time to dialogue with your inner child and your shadow self. Understand that the shadow self is there to keep your inner child from being destroyed. By understanding the lessons of growth that the shadow gives you and integrating them into your life in healthy ways that nourish your inner child you will begin to heal. Feed your inner child by learning to play again, to care, to imagine and to dream. Realize when it’s throwing a fit through you or when the shadows of the past are surfacing. As your inner child heal and your shadow self is integrated into a healthy ally, you will then slowly begin to silence your own inflated egotistical ways. You will have a healthy sense of self-esteem that will be in balance. No one will need to tell you that you are special, unique, worthy, lovable, deserving or important - because you will know that you indeed are. If you were not, you would not have been chosen to incarnate upon Earth. There is nothing that cannot heal. There is nothing stopping you from being whole.”